Hi everybody. Kris Stokes from Custom Fitness Personal Training Studio, where your health comes first. Please do not do this.
There’s a really important thing that I want to address for today and it’s about how your mind is a super powerful tool in both positive progress and in negative failure. Okay and condemnation, that comes in too.
It’s really around all the commitments that we make to ourselves, or the promises that we make; these goals and how often we are the first ones to let ourselves down. Honestly, that sounds like something that you wouldn’t worry too much about; you think, yeah, I let myself down in the past, no big deal. But it actually, mentally becomes a dangerous thing. Why is that? What on earth is this crazy person talking about? Well, anytime that you make a commitment to do something and it could be anything. It could be making cupcakes for your child’s school birthday party, exercising, eating well, reading your devotions everyday or going to bed earlier. I mean, literally anything. When you make that commitment you say, I am going to do this. Whatever happens, if you don’t follow through, you just basically rewired your brain in a bad way to accept failure a little bit more and to not reach for as lofty of a goal.
Setting Realistic Goals
Now, I will be the first one to tell you that when setting goals or commitments, we need to make sure that we’re setting ones that we can keep. We’re needing to make sure that we set ones that are in a stair step fashion that takes thousands and thousands of steps to reach the next plateau or the next goal set. We want to make sure that each step is in there and that we’re not trying to leap up six flights of stairs. Lastly, we want to make sure that we’re taking one step at a time and we’re building ourselves up.
If you haven’t been exercising at all, but January, you all of a sudden say to yourself, “I’m going to work out six days a week this year and I’m going to do it every week for 52 weeks”, something tells me that you would end up failing at that because it’s not something that’s normally in your routine. It’s not something that you’ve committed to building a habit around previously. This is not something that is probably comfortable for you, that you either feel mentally comfortable with or physically feel comfortable with or possibly both. It’s not that you’re a bad person, it’s that you’re a person, right? Humans are terrible at commitment. It’s just kind of how we are.
We have to under-guess instead of over-guesstimating how much we can handle at a time and so if we can think about that then we start to reshape those commitments.
Sticking To Your Commitments
Let’s go back to that first step there though. If we let ourselves out of that commitment and we just rewired our brain, then each time that you start to make a new commitment, your brain is going to become more and more emotionally numb to the idea of giving up. So essentially, every time that you start to make a commitment, then you’re going to automatically start thinking about how you can get out of that commitment.
I have that happen sometimes at the studio, people come in there and they’re all revved up. They’ll come in for a consultation and they’ll be like yeah, “sign me up, twice a week, three times a week“. A couple days later, they give me a call and say , “you know, I was really thinking about …” and usually we’re able to figure out what their why is and kind of help them to understand that they were ready to make that commitment. It’s just fear and emotional numbness that’s causing them to want to back out. Most of the time, they come and try us out and really enjoy what they’re doing. They start to reshape their habits around it and things feel great.
Every time that you do that, you’re really decreasing your chances of reaching your goals in the future and that is just mind boggling to me that anyone would want to do that, right? If you knew about it, you wouldn’t want to do that. You wouldn’t say, “well, I’m gonna say this today because I know that five years from now I won’t be able to make that commitment or reach that goal”. That would be ridiculous. Instead we’re just not understanding how much psychology comes in to our everyday life and what we do; our brains are so powerful.
Our Brains Are Powerful. Train It!
Instead of doing that, what we want to do is we want to teach our brains and ourselves that our word means a lot. That when we give our word, we make a commitment, we’re going to get it done and that there’s really no reason to give up on something before going through the process and trying to make it work.
We just want to make sure that we remedy this by really upholding the goals and the commitments that you set for yourself. You’re training your brain, not just training your body. If you’re into health and fitness, if that’s the realm that you’re looking at, again, this is happening with every decision and commitment in your life. But looking at health and fitness, if you’re upholding those commitments, training daily and you’re eating well and doing those things. If you’re training your brain and your emotions to trust you, so that you can live the life that you want to live and you know what? It’s never too late to make that switch, we just want to make sure that our brains are going in the same direction as our goals so that we can take a step forward towards progress everyday.
So, if you are wanting the accountability and help with creating an action plan to see results, or are wanting someone to help create a workout plan to push you to your greatest potential, then that’s what we’re here for. We work with our clients not just on fitness, but also nutrition. What we do is we will ensure that you are supported throughout every aspect of your health and wellness journey, and that includes making those eating changes. We have an entire team of dedicated professionals to help you with your health and fitness goals. To get your consultation set up, give us a call at 806-322-3188 or email us at email@example.com At Custom Fitness, we are YOUR personal trainers in Amarillo, Texas.
Have a great day!